Five years ago today I married a great man. I knew that we loved each other deeply but I didn't know that that love could grow into something fierce. Love is beautiful. We were talking the other night about how we want to love bigger and more courageously in 2016. We don't just want to do this in our marriage, but in our Church, in our community, and in our family. Today we are sharing 5 things we have learned in our 5 years of marriage! Here's to a deeper love of others, babe.
Don't try to win arguments
If you are trying to win an argument then that means that you are trying to make your spouse lose. This just doesn't end well. When you have something to discuss, try to understand the other person's point of view and communicate that understanding. If you're both doing this, you're going to solve your problem and protect your marriage.
Invite your spouse to take part in your hobbies
This takes us back to the 11 things you should know about marriage. Everything is just better together. Make a list of the things that you love to do and invite your spouse to do them with you! We love marathoning TV shows, long car rides, and baking together.
Since everything is better together, we clean together. We can talk while we do laundry, tidy up the house, or do the dishes. It makes the whole cleaning process go so much quicker and gives us some time to catch up after Daniel goes to sleep (without letting our home become a disaster)!
Put your family before your career
There are deadlines, work trips, and phone calls that have to be made. There are urgent things that you might face everyday in your career. Give each other the freedom to work and work well within the appropriate boundaries.
If you see a pattern developing with 80 hour work weeks, it might be time to reevaluate where you're spending your time. Always put your family ahead of career advancement. There is always going to be something on your to do list. Consider what will matter at the end of your life as you make decisions: will you be thankful that you spent those extra minutes with your husband or that you got a blog post up on time?
The most important place to be on the Holidays is together
Don't let pressure from the outside make you turn on your spouse. Many of you are not going to be able to come up with a holiday plan that makes everyone happy. You just can't be everywhere at once. So instead of trying to do the impossible talk to your spouse and figure out what works best for the two of you.
Don't approach the grand holiday decisions with fear. Bring freedom to the table when you're making plans so that you can live in freedom in your decision. Instead of feeling restricted, try approaching it with a different mindset: you get to do this together.