I remember sitting in my living room at the end of the day only to hear 5 consecutive alerts from my phone. Sixty seconds later there would be another 10 dings. I'm not being dramatic when I say that I just couldn't take it anymore! There was one time that I went without my phone for 45 minutes while I had a conversation with my sister. When I picked up my phone, it said that I had 42 text messages!! What in the world? I needed a solution that would give me freedom to be without my phone and not be overwhelmed when I picked it back up. I also didn't want to tell my friends to stop texting me! They matter so much (even if it takes me some time to respond to their texts)!
So what do I do each weekend to free me from my phone? I delete and I silence. Every non-wedding weekend, I delete all of my social media apps, turn off my mail (don't just silence it, turn off your mail in the settings), and silence my text messages. This isn't as extreme as it might sound and it has brought so much freedom in my life!
I have started really looking forward to this! I even do it in the middle of the week if I feel like social media has become really distracting to me. I delete Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and Twitter. Snapchat will eventually make the list, but right now it's just a fun way to share my story!
For those of you who follow me on Instagram, you know that I do post on Instagram throughout the weekend. So what do I do if I want to share a post on Instagram? I just have to download the app, sign in and setup the Later app on my phone again. And then I delete the apps once the post is live!
Turn off your email
Alerts - First things, first. Right now I want you to go into your phone and turn off the "ding" for your mail app. You don't need that in your life.
No more mail - You don't need to check your mail over the weekend unless you're working over the weekend. If a bride doesn't understand that, she isn't a bride you want to work with! Just disable the mail so that it won't refresh even if you open the app!
On an iPhone, you will open Settings, click "Mail, Contacts, Calendars," select the account, and tap the button for mail so that it's no longer green!
Silence text messages
I have realized that I am just not able to respond to messages as they come in due to other, important distractions (ahem, Daniel). I'm getting much better at responding to messages because I'm only checking them when I actually have time to respond.
I hope these steps inspire you to be present with the people in your life! It's okay if you take a step away from the virtual world to enjoy your own.